"Do what you feel in your heart to be right,
for you'll be criticized anyway.
You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't."
-Eleanor Roosevelt
I love this old quote and remind myself of it daily.
Isn't it true?
Especially among women. We're a snarky, competitive, often jealous and judgmental group, even as grown women!
To some women, the ones that matter, the life you're living will be inspiring, motivating and they'll take genuine joy in watching you grow and fulfill your own heart's desires.
To others?
You'll be judged, criticized and ridiculed, no matter WHAT you're doing, right or wrong.
I've learned from my own mom,
that you don't have to explain yourself to anyone,
if you're doing what's right and being true to who you are.
That THAT is enough.
How much better we'd all be to ourselves and each other,
and our CHILDREN,
if we dropped the instant urge to judge each others' lives.
For today, do something that's right for YOU or YOUR family,
paying no mind to how you may be perceived.
And let go of any judgement of someone else.
We're all in this together.
for you'll be criticized anyway.
You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't."
-Eleanor Roosevelt
I love this old quote and remind myself of it daily.
Isn't it true?
Especially among women. We're a snarky, competitive, often jealous and judgmental group, even as grown women!
To some women, the ones that matter, the life you're living will be inspiring, motivating and they'll take genuine joy in watching you grow and fulfill your own heart's desires.
To others?
You'll be judged, criticized and ridiculed, no matter WHAT you're doing, right or wrong.
I've learned from my own mom,
that you don't have to explain yourself to anyone,
if you're doing what's right and being true to who you are.
That THAT is enough.
How much better we'd all be to ourselves and each other,
and our CHILDREN,
if we dropped the instant urge to judge each others' lives.
For today, do something that's right for YOU or YOUR family,
paying no mind to how you may be perceived.
And let go of any judgement of someone else.
We're all in this together.
Monday, May 20, 2013
An angel among us
Zach Sobiech passed away,
surrounded by his loving family.
Although many of us didn't know Zach,
we will forever be touched and inspired by this
unbelievable young man,
who chose joy over anger.
Who chose to TRULY LIVE despite his illness.
An angel among us who's spirit and all that it held,
his unrelenting kindness, compassion for others
and ability to chose presence over fear,
will live on forever, not just for those that knew him,
but all those in this town and the world over.
You are loved, Sobiech family.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful son with us.
surrounded by his loving family.
Although many of us didn't know Zach,
we will forever be touched and inspired by this
unbelievable young man,
who chose joy over anger.
Who chose to TRULY LIVE despite his illness.
An angel among us who's spirit and all that it held,
his unrelenting kindness, compassion for others
and ability to chose presence over fear,
will live on forever, not just for those that knew him,
but all those in this town and the world over.
You are loved, Sobiech family.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful son with us.
Love is the topic this Friday morning in Stillwater.
"Authentic love means knowing your boundaries and respecting those of your partner; it means reaching out when you don't want to, communicating rather than assuming, and asking questions rather than jumping to conclusions. Authentic love means working things out rather than fighting, fighting rather than leaving, and staying through the misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and disappointments, knowing that through commitment all can be healed."
The topic of love, the idea of soul mates, having a lifelong, loving and successful marriage, has been on my mind lately.
(Of course, I will blog later on this.)
And although parts of this quote make me cringe a little, I get it. What do you think of this?
What I DO understand and know to be true, is that the quality of the relationship between YOU and YOUR SELF, is the foundation for all other relationships in your life.
Often times, it's working to fix yourself, that repairs everything else. Where are you at?
"What you think, you will become." -Buddha
Keepin' it simple today.
If you wallow in sadness, allow yourself to be consumed by anger, let fearful thoughts paralyze you and keep you from moving forward, making a change, THAT is who you will become. Today, try to THINK differently. Choose joy and gratitude over sadness. Choose understanding or at least let go, of your anger for the moment. Choose courage and trust over fear. Happiness will become you and make brighter, the world around you.
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. It is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?" -Marianne Williamson
On this first day of June, just on the cusp of summer, a time of great happiness, success and fulfillment, what is it that YOU want? Who do you want to BE? What do you WANT to and NEED to change to bring you to that place of brilliance?
Find ONE thing. Just one, this morning, that you CAN do. Is it setting the clock before the kids get up each day, to find stillness and gratitude? Is it writing in a journal? Is it saying goodbye to Diet Coke and replacing it with something more nourishing? Is it kissing your husband good bye? Whatever it is. One thing, to bring in to your life a little more of the light you deserve.
Happy Friday.
"As soon as I stop wishing for things to be different, I am met by the beauty of what is." -Katrina Kenison
I've learned when we stop trying to catch up, get ahead, want for more, life falls in to place. What we need most, we already possess. What most needs to get done, always does. These truths allows us to enjoy what is MOST important as mothers. Just, being. And the little moments of joy in our lives amidst the mud and muck of raising children, that string our days together, can be met with more gratitude, appreciation and love.
I've learned when we stop trying to catch up, get ahead, want for more, life falls in to place. What we need most, we already possess. What most needs to get done, always does. These truths allows us to enjoy what is MOST important as mothers. Just, being. And the little moments of joy in our lives amidst the mud and muck of raising children, that string our days together, can be met with more gratitude, appreciation and love.
"At
times, the hard work of being a mother seems in itself a spiritual
practice, an opportunity for growth and self-exploration in an
extraordinarily intimate world, a world in which hands are for holding,
bodies for snuggling, laps for sitting." -Katrina Kenison
As our babes continue to grow up and out each day, one thing remains the same, the truth that being a mother IS a spiritual journey, an awakening, transforming, even healing journey that can be matched by no other.
As we approach {Saint} Mother's Day, give gratitude for this job you've been given, whether you're just beginning or sitting more comfortably on the side lines, watching your OWN daughter parent.
As our babes continue to grow up and out each day, one thing remains the same, the truth that being a mother IS a spiritual journey, an awakening, transforming, even healing journey that can be matched by no other.
As we approach {Saint} Mother's Day, give gratitude for this job you've been given, whether you're just beginning or sitting more comfortably on the side lines, watching your OWN daughter parent.
"At
the bottom of every one of your fears is simply the fear that you can't
handle whatever life may bring you. If you knew you could handle
anything that came your way, what would you possibly have to fear?"
-Susan Jeffers
Ah, nothing.
As a mother, our hefty, outer shell is permeated daily with fear in raising children, growing older, taking risks. . .
No matter your level of inner strength, education, faith,
YOU WILL HANDLE IT ALL.
Trust that you, like every other mother, has that power. It will be there for you at every upswing, every down.
Honor it and finally invite it in to the rest of your day.
Ah, nothing.
As a mother, our hefty, outer shell is permeated daily with fear in raising children, growing older, taking risks. . .
No matter your level of inner strength, education, faith,
YOU WILL HANDLE IT ALL.
Trust that you, like every other mother, has that power. It will be there for you at every upswing, every down.
Honor it and finally invite it in to the rest of your day.
"There are no failures. Forgive and forget yourself."
-Karen Maezen Miller
A short quote, but a meaty one. As mothers, we spend SO much time beating ourselves up, judging ourselves, judging others, wondering if we should be doing more, feeling like we're not doing enough, feeling guilty about ALL of it.
Just let it go. All of it. None of it matters. Whatever you SHOULD be doing of COULD be doing, will unfold naturally.
What matters is the basic rules we were taught so many years ago. . .
Are you doing your best?
Are you doing unto others as you'd have done unto you?
That's all you can ask of yourself, as a mother.
Let the rest just fall away today.
Enjoy the weekend.
Love, the big mamma jamma's.
-Karen Maezen Miller
A short quote, but a meaty one. As mothers, we spend SO much time beating ourselves up, judging ourselves, judging others, wondering if we should be doing more, feeling like we're not doing enough, feeling guilty about ALL of it.
Just let it go. All of it. None of it matters. Whatever you SHOULD be doing of COULD be doing, will unfold naturally.
What matters is the basic rules we were taught so many years ago. . .
Are you doing your best?
Are you doing unto others as you'd have done unto you?
That's all you can ask of yourself, as a mother.
Let the rest just fall away today.
Enjoy the weekend.
Love, the big mamma jamma's.
Deep Thoughts on this beautiful Wednesday morn.
We're pulled in a gaZILLION different ways as moms. Each direction assigned a special emotion. A very popular one amongst this little clique of friends, GUILT. (She's the mean girl.) Always in your face, always making you feel bad, feeling like you don't amount to anything and that you don't do NEARLY enough. . .
So how do you deal with her? How do YOU say, "NO! I don't have to feel guilty about saying no!" And then move on instead of stew in guilt. Do you have a strategy? We'd LOVE to know!
Do you only commit to one volunteer sitch a year, for your kids? Do you stand firm against all the things asked of you, only choosing the things that are most important? Or do you cave, out of guilt, and try to do it all, committing to everything that crosses your path? Do tell!
We're pulled in a gaZILLION different ways as moms. Each direction assigned a special emotion. A very popular one amongst this little clique of friends, GUILT. (She's the mean girl.) Always in your face, always making you feel bad, feeling like you don't amount to anything and that you don't do NEARLY enough. . .
So how do you deal with her? How do YOU say, "NO! I don't have to feel guilty about saying no!" And then move on instead of stew in guilt. Do you have a strategy? We'd LOVE to know!
Do you only commit to one volunteer sitch a year, for your kids? Do you stand firm against all the things asked of you, only choosing the things that are most important? Or do you cave, out of guilt, and try to do it all, committing to everything that crosses your path? Do tell!
It's
Friday, MOS's! And it's supposed to be a beautiful one! {Remember,
our beard contest has been extended to NEXT Friday.} Have a fun St.
Patty's Day Weekend! As the sun rises this morning, take a deep breath
and find gratitude, no matter where you're at.
the
ride to school does NOT have to be painful, mama's. especially if you
have a hike. put your headphones in (is that illegal?) tune out the
screaming children, and enjoy the view. just open your eyes. beauty is
there for the taking in this amazing town.
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